Illustrated Daily; Do You Know Where Your Kids Are?

All right. I'd like to ask you if I can, Danー? I of course. Mr. Mom, all right. Oh, God. Come. And this is larger, all right. not. Not! Don't do this. Stop it. Most of the time I'd smoked pop before school and at lunch and after school. Pop was my main drug during the week and speed.

Mostly in Mondays and Tuesdays I took speed to recover from the weekend before. I made sure that on Friday night I knew where there was a party or I knew where I was going to get drunk and then I would proceed to drink all night Friday Saturday, Saturday night and Sunday and then try to come home and Sunday evening to get well enough for school on Monday morning and then I'd take some speed on Monday morning to make sure I got through that day and it was just a vicious circle. A lot of my friends go and get drunk every day. When I go to school I see a lot of my friends, a lot of them are in class, drunk, stone. Some of them can't even stand up straight, they're so drunk, they walk around school like that. When kids go to school all they do is just ditch and go get high and go party and stuff. Most of my friends do, that's all I do when I go to school. Well I started doing drugs when I was about seven years old and it's kind of like

what the group that I hang around with, it's my own race and I started, some people started supplying me with the stuff and I used to take, I started off first with joints and marijuana and then I started taking angel dust and I started popping speed and white crosses and downers and uppers and then when I was about 11 years old I started sniffing pain and all then I started shooting up. My mother really tried to ignore the fact that I had a drinking problem. She'd say being at midnight or my father would say being at midnight and I wouldn't come home until two and then they'd say well make sure your home at lunch thirty and I wouldn't come home till four and they'd be home at four and I wouldn't come home at all. Out of party everybody says go get a beer, you walk around and walk to next person, go

get a beer, walk around to next person, here have a sip, walk around to next person. So everybody's forcing it on you anyway if you go to a party even if you just go to be with your friends. It's like when you go to a party and you have to socialize with people and they're drinking you don't want to feel like out of place or something so you just drink to be sociable and to be drinking. There seems to be a lot of pure pressure and you can say hey I'm an adult I'm old enough I can handle this stuff and you want to say to your friends I'm old enough I can take it so you go ahead and take it. Yeah well I'm really heavy into tequila too I like drinking a lot of tequila. When I was drinking a lot of tequila I used to drink about two bottles a day and I'd be really plastered off. I'd be really spaced out. I have somewhat of an alcoholic mind and when people would start driving real fast when

they were drunk or up in the mountains going down the road real fast when they were drunk I sort of used a technique and that is I'd close my eyes and I'd lay back and I pretend I was by a waterfall just you know listening to the water go by and pretty soon I perfected that so much that it didn't bother me and I felt safe doing it. I didn't get in real serious accidents. I guess most of the accidents that took place were inside. I have a friend I think most of you know him the one time I well I seen him at a couple parties I guess now but the one time I ever really talked to him at a party I was coming out of the bathroom I had to go to the bathroom and there he was sitting on the floor against the wall just staring straight ahead and I said hi how are you didn't say anything I said do you feel okay do you want to go to the bathroom and he wouldn't say anything he wasn't even moving and I finally just left him there he was so drunk I don't think he heard me.

Do you think he's an alcoholic? I think he has a potential drinking problem. If I say that you have a drinking problem if alcohol interferes with any situation in your life if it interferes with your family life your spiritual life your emotional life your mental life your working life if alcohol has any interference with your life at all then you may have a drinking problem. I'm the type of person when I'm straight I get a little tense to see it's really easier for me for somebody to make me angry and to get me mad see when I see that coming on I right away just go outside of some and I start hooping away and it melds me out and it cools me down. I won't try alcohol just for the fact that I'm scared of it because if I try it once you know there may be that part of me that would submit to it again and I don't like to be out of control. I had a friend who was an alcoholic synonymous and he saw my behavior and my patterns and he was kind enough and he cared enough about me to share with me his experience and what

he did about it and if it wasn't for him I don't know where I'd be today I'd probably be out there drinking still but he was kind enough to introduce me to AA I'm from there I got help and treatment and I have nine months today of sobriety. Alcoholism is a disease it isn't illness and I cannot control it and no one else can control it it's a disease you drink long enough hard enough and you will probably become an alcoholic there's no cure for it but it is treatable it's like diabetes it's a disease a whole bunch of criteria the age criteria of being over 15 the judge that we were to use that confession of yours to have to decide how it was given parents so a judge before

any we even use a confession by doing that has to determine that you made that confession knowingly and you must be represented by a term and that was put in there for those situations where there may be a conflict between the parents another one of your basic rights you know if you're under 13 or if you are and thank you so if you are picked up for a chin you cannot be photographed or fingerprinted unless they get a court order to allow them to do the confession will help you uncover and feel that it's okay from yourself and others

and that interferes with your adjustment or your abilities and problems your own and other people hang on as well do you think it's a sign of a weakness to go to the most psychiatrists or psychologists would you try to treat a person your head's not a doctor a serious cut and you really think about those on side your head deserves less expert care is your life today the model of the rest of it which will be affected by how well you deal with what your present path will deny us are now whenever two young are old to get all together and you got it all together so much pressure on the girl to not be sacked to second hand did that the girl got the message that her parents believed that she was but some girls they did their parents told them

or go get first control but some girls decide to try everybody wants to try something and it just comes up so it's the human okay that's the same thing if you have trust in them no if you're not able to get your parents to know you are good first go up and say you know while you're on the head boy can you not need that when you're ready to listen if you're not able to listen to them that's good okay okay yes we'll take that time let me ask you first um here you got the girls got the message you don't think they can handle that and so they're just not getting it actually so you might as well let's wash them out it's a really sorry um eventually I do you're out of my mind but I think I think the message is that we first did I want you to be forced to believe that people will not be able to unless they feel that there is an openness and you need to worry if quality is in terms of a feeling

it will lead to be can talk to somebody believe that they will listen and believe themselves in it that this country has created this society as a whole it's possible with my own view of the kind of matter as it might be happens in mornings I think that adolescents do know themselves in a security that we don't know so you stay in and stay in your place doing it but they don't want you to like well it's happening so you don't allow me where they allow you to do so she doesn't try to follow so I'm not new okay so you may have a situation where here I want you to be totally honest don't worry what happens and makes you feel that the world is there well when you could learn from another teacher that teaches you different and then you go in that class you could learn the same but she

treats you works yes but it's times when you treat your kids like some teachers to treat you so they don't know that it's about that when you know that you're reading that happens to be something that you don't actually do you see that it's wrong you don't know when they get to do their time so you know that they don't know that you don't know more than six or six of them oh so we don't know if they're good but it's not that such a good idea so you you have some teachers who really get upset when they can't admit that they don't know as much as the school situation then the teachers can do something different but parents have gotten to the attitude now where they can just really care less they send it to school they get them to us and then they come in with them at the end of the day so that's the reason I think it's a lot of life parents are concerned I think you're right I think parents can probably change your school system faster than anyone in the community I honestly believe that's true but I think would you feel a little bit better

about your school or do you feel that the people who run your school see you as equals in that improve your attitude towards your school I think you would too I think you would okay so let's not talk about schools anymore I have my hangover about my mom what's that? okay well I'm spoiled I admit it I'm spoiled but my mom has she she puts me down a lot kind of because my dad spoils me and how can I she agrees with me a lot but then she puts me down sometimes and she messes up to my mind yeah that's good how does all of anything worse than put down a mess with your mom really anybody had the same problem or can share a way that they try to work that out don't just do it all

okay they just put your foot there foot down and they won't hear your reasons so you can't share feelings with somebody who feels we're not supposed to I can I mean I can't walk up to somebody who isn't yes when you want to tell them they're having you feel sad when they start to talk to you it's just a hug but okay now this issue is superior let me ask you this are adults superior no are expect especially our parents okay I agree that doesn't necessarily mean there's well there's some idiots if you do the same things adults do like she says well I know better because I'm going through it and you say well I know that

but you see that only know that for them they don't know that for you is that the way for you they have to be in your situation it's not like there's only one guilty person here we all we as adults fall into those traps but these sometimes we're concerned about our kids or mistrust about them we're not really checking and see if we should and so we won't be able to start a lecture before we start to find out what's happening before we find out how our child feels and before we maybe understand the circumstances and we don't account for that what I'm suggesting to you is young people

when we do it we make a little risky but from the law if you have any confidence in your parents you may not have any confidence in them but if you have any confidence in them you can start giving them those kinds of messages and you can give your teachers those kinds of messages too you can find out what they can change that way you're working and trying to improve the communication well I'd like to say I think as parents we're trying to be teachers all this out of time let me try some nice advice we're doing a few different things we all have passes whether we're young people or adults and they don't change the way or I don't like too and I've heard lots of people tell lots of other people re-objective

but there's no way we can separate our feelings ask yourself if you can talk about the person who doesn't have the action to see if you can because there's a door and somebody can tell you something that they think is so objective there's no motion to it and you may feel really hooked up but you can't correct that relationship and if you're hooked up and if you're hooked up and you're not taking care of them it's very young it's going to happen it's going to happen it's going to happen it's going to happen it's going to happen it's just learning Spanish and farming what matters is

I'm not stuck together in my dreams you job no one can elaborate different ways a real grand forge red you look at the back of your truck there's a view do you want to find it? I can't take this just a minute oh my god did you see what I did this morning? just a minute

oh my god did you know I was coming? you