City Life; 204; Growing Old

It was made by you was like you my life is changing. Again cheer for you if you want to remain mentally active. You need a challenge and I like what I'm doing for people in mediation. What it does for me

I think is said listen we have limitations. I find that in the world I have no pain. I found out that I could do all these fantastic things and age didn't matter anymore. Sex isn't all come calls for embracing the guy that's God. That day you were born to live that you die. I love old people here I revere that.

I feel like they're the most important part of the city. The old people because they're like they represent what we're all going to become eventually. New York is a great city to be old in some way. You don't have to drive that elevators everywhere you've got all these people around but it's also a harsh expansive competitive town and it's a very fast moving town that sometimes has no respect for its elders. We think we know it all and we don't. I don't think that we look at all people as a resource. We think of them as somebody who has already had their chance. Now we're up about get out of the way. Most of the old people that I know are very unhappy measurable sick and I think you have no control over.

The only thing you have control over the things that you would do if you don't do that. You have no control over anything. When I was 16 and I'm now going to be 86 I really was rehabilitates antique typewriters common typewriters that have decided not to function. It's a matter of pulling out a part and installing that part on the machine itself. Let's put it right over here. They communicate with me when I talk to a typewriter and I say what is wrong with you. And that's a fact to make my backspace

isn't working for things like that. Maybe it's abnormal but I have an affection and then I get a charge out of fixing typewriters have a graveyard of old machines in my collection consists of everything imaginable. Evan made a broader here and any language in the world for example a lot of say you want a machine in Russian or Greek instantly. All right I have the measured results. Every machine has a story. I had one man then who asked me if I would permit him to watch me fix his typewriter but I said what I was taught I was. He doesn't care a whole penny extra if I could tolerate him and that's what makes me come down here. It's people like this will really enjoy the same designs of. OK it's great for somebody.

No I could afford to retire. My wife has the money to support me. But that's something that sort of makes me alive to come in and do this. It made me very happy. That made me feel useful. It seems that's the only thing I ever wanted to do. You know you look around the city and you see buildings that are all you see subways that are all you know it has old age sort of it crusted in the bricks but old people get lost and become invisible in the fabric of this city because it is it's it's not about all people. It doesn't focus on that. If you're not a player people don't notice you in New York and when you're retired you're out of the

game. You've got to find something else to do find a new game. And at that point you've got the wisdom and the connections to know where to look and to know how to reinvent yourself. When I look in the mirror I said to myself whoa is this old lady. You just don't feel it. Time passes very quickly now and you wonder where the years have been. The fact is I am an older person but I don't consider myself an older person. What I want to do with these years that I have left to have this wealth of experience. I don't just watch TV and go on trips I want to do that was the this particular point. You said yourself you know why Rush is not yet run.

I have a great deal of the things to offer. You know I'm loving God. There was a man she had manufactured over the years it became apparent that those are exactly gross and history but it was a great training. I'm a retired inspirit designer I had to think on my feet and so there was always somebody demanding something of me that I had to deliver anything not that you know Vineland you good enough to let you see that this is my nightmare the whole you know look what you're going to give my money and you know the way he played her hand doing exactly what we need to do this is you know this is not an arena for argument.

This is an arena for solving problems. What nation is an informal hearing and the purpose of it is not to look for a guilty party but to find a resolution to a dispute that is satisfactory to both parties. I just heard Mrs. Walker. Now it seems to me it would be to your advantage and everybody's advantage if we were able to resolve this thing here. You're going to get cases for today. People describe you as a mediation junkie. You get I guess what the kids today call a rush because it's mentally challenging for me. Never open her door luncheonette me grabbing me by the back of the neck leaving one inch gash has caused me to delete her hair arrested. An ambulance was called to the same to check my wounds not been severe I did not go to the hospital. I would like restitution on my part for the dress the stress the gashes all the all the antibiotics the guys the cost advantages of racist remarks towards me calling me a suspect. I live very much an item to come up with all this.

That's a sense because you are like just the alternative for you is to leave this most gruesome and I will hear from him as a witness in a book telling us a little bit. OK. Sometimes inwardly I say to myself This can never be settled. This is overwhelming. Maybe I can reach an agreement and we don't have to read them on page 2 of The Daily News. Let me know it's not for you let me let you watch online. Yeah I think I just let me love it then rely on just a minute OK. Just for me just a minute. Five months now this is why would i give me five minutes. Sometimes people are so unaware of the fact that they're acting against their own best interest that you feel you'd like to shake someone and say look listen

to reason. They just pushed my two kids down I had my trusty made me kill me and everything. You're better off having to go finally to the shuttle. I will write a check and I'll catch up. I've been counting right I'll tell you that I'm not home yet man. Basically I don't take it home with me. But if we don't get an agreement I sometimes examine myself and say did I do anything or did I leave anything out of it I missed something. You know so I trust you. If we just sit here and still ahead just go north. Would you mind that this mediation is not going anywhere. Might even take it another step. Mr. Aldridge wants Iran to make your way. The ultimate goal is to get my apartment

back. Mr. Pro Hart tells us that he will take a leave the premises and that he will pro rave wherever Red Bull do in this aims to resolve the situation. OK so not really is this what we saw just a year and a grin for yourself. OK Michael the flame is still banging and the knocking and the cheers be on track. She should be taking money. Sure I will I don't know nothing of value by Lee have it. I know you're on you're sitting here lying now and I never laid out anything like that and I don't appreciate you saying I'm that paid and I want you to remain cool. She may be aware of some where she's making but she's bitch bitch. But you may be very defensive about what I would like to do today is to get an agreement that says between 12 and 5. They're going to make every effort to minimize. That's all I am. OK I think I think we can guess all I think

if you want to remain mentally active you need a challenge in life. I like what I'm doing for people in mediation and what it does for me. I hands down Florida that rules that and how many luncheons can if you go to and I read books can you read and I think I do things that Holder people don't do. I think the single most important thing that I'm afraid of losing is time. Imagine this as you get older you look back on your life and say did I do all the things I want to do. And I say all the things I wanted to say. I would say what I would fear would be well simply the fact of losing friends. You know if you have to be quite old you lose companionship you don't have that many people who are your contemporaries anymore and I think that can be very hard

as an old person. I'm looking forward to the idea of vanity vanishing. I can't wait for that. I can't wait to actually wake up and adore that I'm so fat you know. And a door that I have wrinkles. I hope that when I'm 80 sex will be as stirring as it is now I hope that it still is an appetite of mine. Experience has taught me that 50 isn't you know six or 60 70 80. I know for sure it doesn't. And I'm looking forward to the 90s and 100s. I'm sure it doesn't stop there either. We're 10 married 43 years.

I'm 85. I'm very proud of my survival. I'm five years younger than me. I was in the dry cleaning business for a long time and I write poems now. Most of my poems concerning love with my wife how I feel about her. And as it comes up I'd

like to hear nice and warm welcome for the man by the name of does it work. It might be a little panto. It can't be both. But it's still I guess I have a 30 year old. The first tome is called prepare for the long cold nights. You've watched Dark disrobing with gluttonous saris and now they're glued on. The books are set aside. The lights again. The TV's off. It's time for serious business. But something's awfully wrong. The ignition key is in but the motor is sputtering. You know all of these you

know as exceedingly odd. But your modus operandi is not good. You know we women when we reach that man up or as a people said we don't want sex anymore. But it can stop now. Do you do this with foreplay is a fundamental part of sex. We've always had foreplay. Now it's mostly for sex has money called home.

Oh. It's an all compulsive embracing the dry. That starts from the day we're born till a day you die. But I would put it and poetic life as I am about to expire. OK. You may not be able to do what you did at 20 but the coddling of those close love words and whatever it is that goes with sex is always needed and terribly important. Now if you find a fellow who can. That's fine. The first who says no to

every male know how to say no. The second time I went out with them when I said you crazy are you. We suggest first day the him. It's a nice restaurant that's where most of the gentlemen I've met have a saying which and expect treat the rest of the evening without going into details. But that's what they expect. Waving yelling at each other's luck that's not sex. So you're right there was extra curricular activity. And that's how it worked out so

well explored that area. But we got through with the right way or no way to do with if I were pushed up the wedding night. I'm still flabbergasted and I don't believe it's happening. I'm afraid I'm going to wake up on 1 enough that I dropped all this year to. We want to know what real love until

maybe play before you fall in love for her and for us both. We have limitations.

We're dealing with our right is here our right to stand in these whatever I find out in the water I have an OK I can move around I can stretch. I found out that I could do all these fantastic things and age didn't matter anymore. I did never do this before when I was young but in fact I didn't learn how to swim until dealing the girl with the pyramid.

We have read it together and it looks beautiful. Just like the pyramids of Egypt growing old doesn't mean that you lose anything. A whole new world is opening up for you. All you have to do is want to do it. It's jumping into life and saying Here I am and I am here. The way I started out because they were nice women. Before we were born. Only about 8 years ago I saw the end of the line very clearly. I don't mean I have a kind of Revelation were anything like that but I had a sudden the awareness of mortality. I live said to myself I will never allow trivialities

to make me unhappy again because I don't have that much time in life and I want to make the best of it. In a strange way you do get more and more peace with yourself here as you get older. I think it's a great thing that can happen where you really accept who you are just to be able to pursue your own interests and take on projects that are just that just things that you want to do because life's too short. This is your time to do it with you know. Try to solve problems that have the advantage of the experience and therefore should make the same passionate contribution to life that we made in the past. The center

of my family. You know you're right no joking with you dear me good bye bye bye bye.