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<v Speaker>[Intro song plays] <v CC Speaker>Coming up on Club Connect, DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince tell us how they deal <v CC Speaker>with conflict when they don't agree with one another. <v CC Speaker>We'll examine the consequences of violent behavior and look for some alternatives to <v CC Speaker>fighting. Also, meet Damien Fuller. <v CC Speaker>He swings his fists in the boxing ring, not on the streets.
<v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Lets see what you got Will. Lets see what you got. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>My ball. Nah man, my ball. Nah man, hold up. [argument] Will, me and you, You ?dogged? <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>me out of my shot. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Oh, I think we're having a conflict here. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Yeah, we're about to have one. And we need to go talk about this man. <v Tara Sendelbach>Uh oh, looks like Club Connects Jerry Millen is in hot water with rap music and TV stars <v Tara Sendelbach>Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. They look pretty angry. <v Odell Nails>You know, Tara, it's OK to be angry. What's important is how you deal with that anger. <v Odell Nails>I can't wait to see how they solve this showdown, but we'll check out that action later. <v Tara Sendelbach>Teens everywhere face conflict and even violence sometimes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Think about it. Can you recognize when you or people around you are angry? <v Tara Sendelbach>Did you ever wish that you could stop a fight before it starts? <v Tara Sendelbach>Do you know ways to prevent violence? <v Odell Nails>Stopping the fighting. That is what this special Club Connect is all about. <v Odell Nails>Let's start by learning how to recognize the early signs of trouble. <v Odell Nails>So take a look. <v Teenage Girl>So Larry, can you make it to my basketball game tonight? <v Larry>I can't, I have a history test to study for. <v Neil>Hey Larry, you took my history notes, give 'em back! <v Larry>What? <v Teenage Guy 2>You heard him, give 'em back.
<v Neil>I left them on the lab table. Diana saw you take them, now give 'em a back! <v Odell Nails>Stop. Here we have a situation that could become violent. <v Odell Nails>But if Larry can just not become angry, the violence can be avoided, right? <v Odell Nails>Wrong. Anger is a normal part of life, and there's nothing wrong with occasionally <v Odell Nails>getting mad, but if you can understand why you get angry and what happens to your <v Odell Nails>body when you get mad, then you can learn how to control it. <v Odell Nails>Let's continue our scene. <v Larry>I don't have your notes. <v Neil>You're lying, give 'em back! <v Odell Nails>Stop. The first step of anger begins with a stimulus or something that makes <v Odell Nails>you mad. In this case, Neil accusing Larry and pushing him. <v Odell Nails>You can begin to feel the anger physically in the forms of tension and stress. <v Odell Nails>When your body becomes tense a chemical called adrenaline is released into your <v Odell Nails>bloodstream, the adrenaline causes your breathing to become heavier, your heart to beat <v Odell Nails>faster, and your blood pressure to rise. <v Odell Nails>These physical changes add more tension and stress to your body, and you are now ready to <v Odell Nails>react to the source of the anger. <v Tara Sendelbach>OK, we've just seen one example of an angry situation.
<v Tara Sendelbach>Now we're going to talk about what makes us mad, ok. <v Teenage Girl 2>What really makes me mad are put downs and all put downs really do is lower <v Teenage Girl 2>a person's self-esteem. <v Teenage Guy 3>What really makes me mad is when someone is physically intimidating someone that's <v Teenage Guy 3>smarter than them, and it gets on your nerves and you know, it's not right. <v Odell Nails>OK, I got a feeling for what makes you mad. <v Odell Nails>But let's step it up a little. OK. Let's make it a little bit more serious. <v Odell Nails>Have you ever been in a situation where your adrenaline is pumping, you really thought <v Odell Nails>the situation was going to end up in violence? <v Odell Nails>Tell me what happened. <v Teenage Guy 4>Well, it did end up in violence, but I felt guilty for hitting him because you're just <v Teenage Guy 4>a little kid. But, you know, I tried to talk over to him about the situation, <v Teenage Guy 4>but he just didn't pay attention and you know, he was acting ignorant, and we were just <v Teenage Guy 4>arguing then I punched him. I felt real guilty. <v Odell Nails>Feel bad about it? <v Teenage Guy 4>Yeah. <v Odell Nails>Did you feel like you solved anything after you hit him? <v Teenage Guy 4>I felt low, like a snake. <v Odell Nails>OK. Who else got a story? <v Teenage Guy 3>I got in a little argument with this one guy who was saying stuff about me. <v Teenage Guy 3>And, you know, he started pushing me and stuff like that.
<v Teenage Guy 3>Now I didn't-you-you know, I got in an argument but I didn't want to get into it because <v Teenage Guy 3>it wasn't worth it, it was during school and I didn't want to get suspended or anything. <v Teenage Guy 3>You know, I just-I just let it go, I told him to chill out. <v Teenage Guy 3>And, you know, if he wants to talk to me about it after he can. <v Teenage Guy 3>And luckily, we solved it without fighting, and I'm-I'm glad we did. <v Odell Nails>So are you-I mean, are you even cool now to the point where he might respect you more? <v Teenage Guy 3>We were cool about it. We talked it over, you know, we got through it. <v Odell Nails>Cool. <v Tara Sendelbach>Anger is part of life, it's normal. <v Tara Sendelbach>But there is time to think before you act on your angry feelings. <v Tara Sendelbach>When we come back, we'll talk about some options. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stay tuned. [audience claps] <v CC Speaker>Anger is a normal part of life, learning to control it when you encounter <v CC Speaker>conflict with someone is a skill. <v CC Speaker>Call us at Club Connect at (313) 876-TEEN, or write <v CC Speaker>to us, for great ways to handle your anger in the anger control kit. <v Russell Farrell>We see a very high proportion of penetrating trauma, and what I mean <v Russell Farrell>by penetrating trauma is the type of trauma that's usually caused by knife or gunshot <v Russell Farrell>or uh injuries.
<v Odell Nails>Dr. Russell Farrell is a senior physician at Detroit's receiving hospital, where the <v Odell Nails>result of violence comes in ambulances. <v Russell Farrell>The um gravity of these injuries is to <v Russell Farrell>be very distressing because I see that there's not a lot <v Russell Farrell>of remorse usually in uh the person that's <v Russell Farrell>usually caused these types of injuries. <v Russell Farrell>I think if they could look over any of our shoulders on a Friday, Saturday night or <v Russell Farrell>really any night of the week and see what happens to the large majority of the victims of <v Russell Farrell>violence that might change some people. <v Russell Farrell>The horror and the harm that's been done, I can see reflected in the eyes of the <v Russell Farrell>family that I have to go tell that their loved one now has passed away <v Russell Farrell>as a result of the gunshot wound or the stab wound. <v Russell Farrell>I've never found the right words, I've never been comfortable with telling someone that <v Russell Farrell>the person they care about is-is dead. Uh I would <v Russell Farrell>imagine I guess for myself that if I ever felt comfortable with that, or
<v Russell Farrell>ever became what I would consider insensitive to that event that I myself, would probably <v Russell Farrell>end up having to leave this environment and move on to something else. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stay tuned. D.J. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince settle their beef with Club Connect's <v Tara Sendelbach>Jerry Millen. <v Tara Sendelbach>14 year old Damien Fuller and his trainer Eddie Carr are bound at <v Tara Sendelbach>the fist. <v Eddie Carr>The close relationship that's developed through the touching, the greasing of the <v Eddie Carr>face, the tying of the glove, massaging the fighters legs and his arms, <v Eddie Carr>washing his mouth guard. He's not afraid for me to wash his mouth guard and put my <v Eddie Carr>fingers in his face and his mouth, because, you know, we develop a closeness as we work <v Eddie Carr>day by day in the gym. <v Eddie Carr>I can be in the crowd and the people are yelling. <v Eddie Carr>If he's in the ring fighting and if I yell and say, use your jab, you can hear my voice <v Eddie Carr>above everybody simply because we've worked together and we've developed a bond,
<v Eddie Carr>so that's just the way it is. [Indistinct instructions] <v Edward Fuller>I'm Edward Fuller, I'm Damien's father. <v Edward Fuller>Damien listen to Eddie Carr on a lot of things better than he <v Edward Fuller>does me. <v Edward Fuller>I want it. Not only that, the kid is being, you know, being ?vetted? <v Edward Fuller>right. It doesn't matter with me, you know. <v Edward Fuller>I mean, I wouldn't have it no other way. <v Damien Fuller>My coach, Eddie Carr, he's like a second father to me. <v Damien Fuller>I goes over his house, spend the night. We leave-we leave in the morning, go to a <v Damien Fuller>tournament, go over his house for dinner and whatever. <v Damien Fuller>Helps a lot because uh my coach is always-my coach is always there for me <v Damien Fuller>I could talk to him about things and my father too. <v Damien Fuller>Both of them are great guys and I love 'em. <v CC Speaker>Damien has built a bond based on hard work and commitment. <v CC Speaker>And for him, it has paid off to have someone in his corner. <v CC Speaker>Fuller is the 1991 National Silver Gloves champion in the 95 <v CC Speaker>pound weight class. <v Damien Fuller>My first accomplishment I like to do is to get to the amateurs and maybe go to the
<v Damien Fuller>Olympics, '96 Olympics. Want to go after that turn professional, and win <v Damien Fuller>the world championship. <v Eddie Carr>If you don't have a mentor, or someone that can reel you in, or settle you down, <v Eddie Carr>then anyone can go astray. <v Eddie Carr>The jails are full of good fighters who <v Eddie Carr>if they only had someone that could reel them in. <v Damien Fuller> There's a lot of drug problems in the city and there's a lot of people forced <v Damien Fuller>to go the wrong way, but I'm lucky I have good parents and a good culture <v Damien Fuller>to teach me the right way. <v Eddie Carr>I look at Damien as being a little brother you know, I work with him and I think in all <v Eddie Carr>aspects of life, if I can, I'd like to see him grow up and be a perfect gentleman. <v Will Smith>I don't know why we're sitting down talking, this guy-. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>No, no, no, we had a conflict and we got to resolve it. <v Will Smith>Yo yeah, we had a beef. It was settled out there, when I said it was your ball- <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>You gotta sit down and talk these things out. <v Jerry Millen>Club Connect with D.J. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. <v Jerry Millen>[audience claps] <v Jerry Millen>We're really just goofing here, but these type of conflicts happen all the time.
<v Jerry Millen>And I'm gonna ask Will, what would you really do if that situation we just went through <v Jerry Millen>really happened? <v Will Smith>Um, well, it depends. A lot of times what happens is you get in a situation <v Will Smith>where you stop thinking for a second, somebody will do something and your friends might <v Will Smith>be looking. Alright, and you can't afford to let your friends think you're a chump or <v Will Smith>something like that. And for me, it was never really a problem because my <v Will Smith>father, always my father killed all that peer pressure. <v Will Smith>And you know, it was nothing my friends could say or do to make me get in trouble with my <v Will Smith>father. <v Jerry Millen>What about you, Jazz? <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>Before you make drastic decisions or just follow the trend of your friends, you <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>nee-really need to sit down and think about everything that you do, you know because a <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>lot of problems can be solved if you just think about it. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>Think before you do. <v Will Smith>That's why we work so well together, right? <v Will Smith>I love you, man seriously. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>I love you too, man. [audience laughs a bit] <v Jerry Millen>Back in high school, lets say a fellow walked up to ya and said, yo man, I like what <v Jerry Millen>you're what you're wearing, I don't like those tennis shoes, I don't like them. <v Jerry Millen>And try to start some stuff with you. How would you handle that situation?
<v Will Smith>You just have to get into the habit of thinking about it, because it's a lot of times <v Will Smith>that people are petty and people are going to try to do petty things to you. <v Will Smith>You got to be above that. You have to want-you have to want something better for <v Will Smith>yourself. And, you know, again, I get back to the parents. <v Will Smith>That's why I feel like it's important for the parents to-to instill those type of values <v Will Smith>in your kids. You-you above that. You know, it's-no, you can't solve anything out in the <v Will Smith>street fighting and you get hurt. Somebody else get hurt. <v Will Smith>You get in trouble, you waste a lot of time. Your mind has to be elsewhere. <v Will Smith>You know, you have to be focused on what your goals are. <v Will Smith>What we're trying to say is that communicate makes it a lot easier than getting out there <v Will Smith>and rumbling. You know, after you rumble you still got a problem, and sometimes you might <v Will Smith>have a bigger problem. So we feel that communication is the way to do it. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>And think first. <v Will Smith>Think first. Right, Jazzy? <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>You got it. <v Jerry Millen>So DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, you can work out the conflicts by talking? <v Will Smith>Yes, sir. <v Jerry Millen>Thanks for hanging out with us. [audience claps]
<v Interviewer>Amber, what's Kim's favorite food? <v Amber Covill>I'd say it'd probably be spaghetti, she's always eating it. <v Interviewer>Is she right? <v Kim Snell>Yeah, that's right. <v Interviewer>What about favorite thing to wear? <v Kim Snell>Black. <v Interviewer>Black? What about hers? <v Amber Covill>Black and blue. <v Interviewer>Black and blue? <v Kim Snell>Yeah, because she's always been ?inaudiable?. [laughs] <v Interviewer>They eat together, talk together and shop together. <v Interviewer>Kim Snell and 17 year old Amber Covill, are sisters. <v Interviewer>Not by blood, but through the Big Sisters Big Brothers program. <v Interviewer>They met when Amber was 10, and I recently met up with them to find out how their <v Interviewer>relationship has changed over the years. <v Amber Covill>I came from a broken family. My mom and dad were divorced and I needed someone else that <v Amber Covill>I could go out with besides my mom. So she called Big Brothers Big Sisters and <v Amber Covill>I met up with Kim. <v Kim Snell>Well, I think there was a point when I-I felt like I-I didn't realize <v Kim Snell>it at the time, but I think that Amber thought that I was being more like a mom. <v Kim Snell>And she let me know by just not talking to me for, what, six weeks.
<v Kim Snell>And then I realized, OK, I'm-I'm being less of a friend and I backed <v Kim Snell>off. <v Amber Covill>That 's cause she was just like, tell me what-you can't do this, you can't do this, and <v Amber Covill>she's acting more like my mom than my best friend. <v Kim Snell>Because I think I realized at one point, you don't want her to do those <v Kim Snell>things, but you can't-you can't tell her, you can't do those things. <v Kim Snell>You have to let them find out that for yourself and that's a hard thing to do. <v Kim Snell>But I'm not her mom, I can't do that, and that's not what I'm here for. <v Kim Snell>We do a lot more talking now, we talk about school, we talk about outside of school. <v Kim Snell>We talk about her trying to find a job, what she's gonna do after school, <v Kim Snell>keeping her grades up. <v Amber Covill>She's helped me become my own person. So look at my birthday party, I said, no drinking <v Amber Covill>and no one brought any alcohol because they knew what I meant. <v Interviewer>What do you guys argue about? <v Amber Covill>A couple times on certain friends. <v Amber Covill>She didn't like them and I just didn't listen to her. <v Amber Covill>And I went off, I was going to ?meet? James, and he was bad news. <v Amber Covill>He was into drinking, drugs, and I didn't get into the drugs, I got into drinking <v Amber Covill>and trouble. My mom and her helped me realize, hey, you know, he's not worth it.
<v Interviewer>How do you think you'd be different if you hadn't had Kim around? <v Amber Covill>Probably in juvenile hall right now, because I dunno, <v Amber Covill>I've just had a lot of bouts with the wrong people, and without Kim there I don't think <v Amber Covill>I'd be sitting right here. I'd probably be somewhere else. <v Amber Covill>[Song from Warrant plays] <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>Hey, I'm Jani Lane, I'm Joey Allen, and I'm Steven Sweet. We're Warrant, and you're <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>watching Club Connect. <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>Don't touch that dial. <v Tara Sendelbach>Welcome back. As we left you at the start of this show, Larry and Neil, the characters in <v Tara Sendelbach>our skit were about to come to blows. <v Tara Sendelbach>Check out this recap. <v Neil>You're lying, give 'em back! <v Tara Sendelbach>So we have this tense situation, and Larry, as we discussed before, is naturally angry. <v Tara Sendelbach>But even when we get angry, we still have some options as to how to deal with the anger. <v Larry>I don't have your notes! <v Tara Sendelbach>Stop. Self-defense is an option, but think about the consequences of fighting <v Tara Sendelbach>back. At the least, you can get suspended from school, in trouble with your parents, or
<v Tara Sendelbach>with the police. In the worst case you or the other person can get seriously hurt. <v Larry>Just leave me alone. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stop. Leaving the scene is another option and a good one if there's even <v Tara Sendelbach>a possibility of someone getting hurt. <v Tara Sendelbach>Go to an adult, they can help you solve a problem, particularly when the situation is <v Tara Sendelbach>beyond your control. Remember, nothing is more important than your life. <v Tara Sendelbach>There is a third option you can try. <v Tara Sendelbach>Throw a curve. <v Larry>Wait a minute, I'm sorry you lost your notes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Saying I'm sorry or excuse me does not mean you're wrong and the other person is right. <v Tara Sendelbach>It's just a good way of preventing a fight. <v Larry>I wish I had them so I can give 'em back, but I can't. <v Tara Sendelbach>Keep the situation light. The less serious the situation, the less likelihood a fight <v Tara Sendelbach>will break out. It's all right to make a joke, but not at the other person's expense. <v Tara Sendelbach>That can only make matters worse. <v Larry>Now let's stop a minute and retrace your steps and try to figure out what happened to <v Larry>your notes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Give the other person a way out. Chances are he doesn't want to fight either. <v Tara Sendelbach>Just remember three basics to throwing a curve. <v Tara Sendelbach>Number one, stay in control. Don't let your fear, anger or defensiveness make
<v Tara Sendelbach>you lose your control. Breathe deeply, move slowly, stay calm. <v Tara Sendelbach>Number two, keep it cool. Speak softly and calmly, shouting and swearing will just <v Tara Sendelbach>make the situation worse. And three, put yourself in the other person's shoes. <v Tara Sendelbach>It's easier to relate to the other person if you understand what they want, think or <v Tara Sendelbach>feel. <v Odell Nails>So we've just seen some options. <v Odell Nails>Why do you think people fight? <v Teenage Girl>I think people just get in fights to like make them look more popular around their <v Teenage Girl>friends. Like do it for their friends, like make them look tough so nobody else will mess <v Teenage Girl>with them. But the situation just gets worser because somebody else wants to fight 'em to <v Teenage Girl>see if they're tougher than that person. <v Odell Nails>And when you see somebody fight, you personally does that make you think that they're <v Odell Nails>tough or they're cool? <v Teenage Girl>No, I just think that they look stupid up there trying to show off in front of everybody. <v Odell Nails>Anybody else? <v Teenage Girl 2>I think that people fight to defend themselves and you know through the movies they're <v Teenage Girl 2>taught that the only way to really solve a problem is through fighting and not you know <v Teenage Girl 2>through talking. <v Tara Sendelbach>When we come back, we'll talk about where you go for help and support in dealing with <v Tara Sendelbach>everyday conflicts.
<v CC Speaker>Anger is a normal part of life. <v CC Speaker>Learning to control it when you encounter conflict with someone is a skill. <v CC Speaker>Call us at Club Connect at (313) 876-TEEN, or write to <v CC Speaker>us for great ways to handle your anger in the anger control kit. <v Chris Issak>Why don't you help me? <v Chris Issak>Why don't you guide me? <v Chris Issak>Say you love me and you need me. The way I love you please believe me. <v Chris Issak>Hi, I'm Chris Issak, and for those who can't read, it's right there, and next to me is <v Chris Issak>Tara Sendelbach. <v Tara Sendelbach>And this is um Kenny Johnson and we're hanging out here in the dressing room right before
<v Tara Sendelbach>they go on here. It's so nice to meet you guys, I've been looking forward to this for <v Tara Sendelbach>like three weeks. [Song briefly plays] <v Tara Sendelbach>You have a very unique style of dressing. <v Tara Sendelbach>What about in high school? What was your style then? <v Chris Issak>I wore a lot of real weird clothes. We got everything secondhand, pretty much in high <v Chris Issak>school. My mom would always take us out to get clothes secondhand, so I had clothes that <v Chris Issak>were like way out of style so far back that they were almost in style again you know what <v Chris Issak>I mean? [Song plays] <v Chris Issak>In high school, I was a pretty mellow guy, and when people give me a hard time <v Chris Issak>for like my clothes and stuff like that, I would just like quietly slink away,
<v Chris Issak>and that's something I do even today. Quietly just slink away. <v Chris Issak>Because if somebody is big on you and giving you troubles, it's like to heck with it, <v Chris Issak>it's not worth the aggravation. [Song briefly plays] <v Tara Sendelbach>So, Chris, why do you think the majority of your songs are so lonely and sad? <v Tara Sendelbach>Are you a lonely and sad guy? [Song briefly plays] <v Leslie Wardell>Camp experience was more like people trying to bond and get <v Leslie Wardell>to know each other and become men. <v Leslie Wardell>My name's Leslie Wardell and I'm in the 7th grade, the purpose of being up there with <v Leslie Wardell>?men? was meant to show us that other people besides our parents care about us. <v Warren Dennis>I'm Warren Dennis. I'm the person who initiated the African-American <v Warren Dennis>male mentor camp. <v Warren Dennis>I thought that we could bring together 45 boys into a <v Warren Dennis>learning environment of outdoor camping and match them with um
<v Warren Dennis>men who had experienced life and share the survival <v Warren Dennis>of being an African-American male with these boys. <v Warren Dennis>They have a story to tell. <v Michael Anderson>My name is Michael Anderson. I'm 14 years old. <v Michael Anderson>At first, I was kind of um skeptical. <v Michael Anderson>I don't know why really, I was just kind of lazy about it. <v Michael Anderson>But my mother, she was the one who encouraged me since she worked for ?reverend? <v Michael Anderson>?inaudible?. <v Michael Anderson>I see that as an African-American boy, we tend <v Michael Anderson>not to have as many African-American male mentors. <v Mentor>You gotta go to school, you gotta use your brain, you gotta go to school, a lot of <v Mentor>?girls? are dropping out, how many people in here would drop out? <v Mentor>We look at you 5-10 years down the road, how many drop outs we're gonna have in this <v Mentor>group? Raise your hand, all drop outs stand up and raise your hands. <v Allen Martin>My name is Allen Martin and I was a mentor that the African-American male mentoring camp. <v Allen Martin>I think in everyday life you have to be a mentor. <v Allen Martin>We've got a lot of children out there lost and they need a little bit of direction. <v Allen Martin>To actually go up to a camp ground with 45 African-American males was-it was excellent,
<v Allen Martin>and it just gave them a chance to calm down a little bit and get away from the concrete <v Allen Martin>and the hardness of the city. <v Leslie Wardell>The people that they didn't like each other first as the camp came along, <v Leslie Wardell>they started bonding more, they start coming together. <v Warren Dennis>It's very, very difficult to be a teenage <v Warren Dennis>boy today. I think we all learn both the boys and the men. <v Michael Anderson>My experience at the African-American male mentor camp was um <v Michael Anderson>very useful I see now. Well, I feel um more so responsible, <v Michael Anderson>I won't be as lazy as I am at certain times. <v Leslie Wardell>The experience taught me how to be more responsible of my duties, <v Leslie Wardell>of being a person and ?a human?, and help-how to help me along with my schoolwork. <v Allen Martin>Several of the children call me up now and they just talk about life. <v Allen Martin>They talk about ya know starting-starting school now. <v Allen Martin>One of the boys, um I took him up to get him a road in high school, it was a big step for <v Allen Martin>him, and just the fact that he wanted me to go with him, you know, made a difference, and
<v Allen Martin>let me know that know that-that there is hope. <v Odell Nails>We found some good answers to some tough questions about putting the brakes on conflicts <v Odell Nails>before they lead to violence. <v Tara Sendelbach>Odell, I think our viewers and our studio audience know that there are alternatives to <v Tara Sendelbach>violence. Resolving conflicts without violence starts when you stop to think about what's <v Tara Sendelbach>going on before you act. <v Odell Nails>And no matter what's going down, there's always time to think right guys? <v Odell Nails>[Audience says "Right!"] So who do you guys go to to talk to when you have a problem you <v Odell Nails>want to resolve? <v Teenage Guy>Well, usually sometimes I go to my mom or dad, but I have an older <v Teenage Guy>sister, and she's always asking me what's going on in school you know. <v Teenage Guy>And when I have a real bad problem, you know, with my friends or something I will talk to <v Teenage Guy>her. <v Tara Sendelbach>Ok, this brings us to another issue, which is role models. <v Tara Sendelbach>This is where you guys get to like mentioned on TV, who your role models are and get some <v Tara Sendelbach>brownie points with people you know. If you could name one person that-that you would <v Tara Sendelbach>like to be just exactly like, who would it be? <v Teenage Girl>I think I look up to my grandparents because I trust them most.
<v Tara Sendelbach>Grandparents are a good source, you know, because they-they've been through everything <v Tara Sendelbach>before. So, I mean, they can tell you kind of what's going on. <v Tara Sendelbach>Who else? Who else has somebody that they really admire? <v Tara Sendelbach>And they- <v Teenage Girl 2>I would like to be more like my mom because she goes to school. <v Teenage Girl 2>She raises me and my brother and sister. <v Teenage Girl 2>Plus, she has to work full time, so she does all three things and she still has time <v Teenage Girl 2>to spend-spend with us, take us places, or do things with us. <v Tara Sendelbach>Well, that's about all the time we have for this show. Our thanks to Chris Isaak, what a <v Tara Sendelbach>babe. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince and everyone here in the studio, thanks <v Tara Sendelbach>you guys. <v Odell Nails>To everyone watching at home, thanks for tuning in, and we'll see you next time on <v Odell Nails>Club Connect. <v Odell Nails>?inaudiable? <v CC Speaker>On a future Club Connect. <v Speaker>You can go out and get a really good workout if you can uh aerobically increase <v Speaker>your heart. The most important thing about that is that this is the kind of exercise <v Speaker>that you're having so much fun doing, you kind of forget that you're getting in good <v Speaker>shape too. <v CC Speaker>Watch for it.
<v K.M.C. Kru>The Devil, Devil, Devil came up to Michigan, he was looking for a soul to steal. <v K.M.C. Kru>He had trouble in mind, as he drove on the line, he was looking to make a deal. <v K.M.C. Kru>He had a brand new Nissan truck, convertible with a portable phone. <v K.M.C. Kru>He had a Kenwood deck that was bumpin' loud as he stops in a no parking zone. <v K.M.C. Kru>The Devil stepped out with a beeper on his hip, a black Flia suit that was down, but then <v K.M.C. Kru>he turned his head then his eyes got red and when you heard this scratchin' sound, he <v K.M.C. Kru>walked up on a boy on two turntables. This boy was rippin' the cut, so the Devil jumped <v K.M.C. Kru>up on the back of his truck and said, "Boy, let me tell you what. <v K.M.C. Kru>You rock the beat pretty good boy, but naw, it ain't nothin' new because I'm in your <v K.M.C. Kru>town, 'bout to take that crow, and ain't nothin' that you can do! <v K.M.C. Kru>But if you want to get bad, don't make me mad, we can make this little bet true. <v K.M.C. Kru>A turntable of gold against your soul, I think I'm better than you.". <v K.M.C. Kru>The boy said, "My name's the Butcher, and I'm the baddest around in this city. <v K.M.C. Kru>You start to mess with me and I'm sure you'll see you're gonna feel real itty-itty-bitty. <v K.M.C. Kru>But I'll take that bet, and you're gonna regret it," and then Butcher started flexing his <v K.M.C. Kru>wrist. But then the Devil's posse all jumped in.
<v K.M.C. Kru>Then they broke it all down like this: <v K.M.C. Kru> Hit it! Devil's <v K.M.C. Kru>in the house. <v K.M.C. Kru>And when the devil got done scratching, everyone knew he was no joke. <v K.M.C. Kru>Because his records caught on fire, the turntables went up in smoke, the Devil's <v K.M.C. Kru>posse got in the circle and gave each other high-fives. <v K.M.C. Kru>They thought the Butcher had lost, party-party time to get live! <v K.M.C. Kru>The Butcher started stretchin', he yawned and looked at the Devil. <v K.M.C. Kru>Then he dropped his arms down by his side and kind of giggled and laughed at the fellow,
<v K.M.C. Kru>he had some Double Mint gum so he put it in his mouth, I guess he enjoyed the taste. <v K.M.C. Kru>But then he threw the gum wrapper in the Devil's face, and stepped back and hollered <v K.M.C. Kru>out "Bass!" [Record being scratched] <v K.M.C. Kru>
Club Connect
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No. 5003
The Conflict Resolution Show
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WXYZ-TV (Television station : Southfield, Mich.)
WTVS-TV (Television station : Detroit, Mich.)
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"Damien Fuller is a teen from the inner city who is learning to settle his fights in the boxing ring, not the streets. Amber Covill is positive she would be in juvenile detention instead of finishing high school if not for one factor. What's the common denominator for these teens? Input form caring adults. A consistent theme in this episode of CLUB CONNECT. "The first objective of this program was demonstrating for teens methods for resolving conflict without resorting to arguments or physical violence. The second was sending the message to adults that teens need the guidance and experience of caring adults, or mentors. Mentoring can guide youths toward good experiences and away form trouble. Teens can rely on adults for this kind of help. "Entertainers DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince were enlisted to help send positive messages about conflict resolution. Role playing, information billboards, and studio discussions among teens helped round out the show's content messages."--1991 Peabody Awards entry form.
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Producing Organization: WXYZ-TV (Television station : Southfield, Mich.)
Producing Organization: WTVS-TV (Television station : Detroit, Mich.)
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