Club Connect; No. 5003; The Conflict Resolution Show

<v Speaker>[Intro song plays] <v CC Speaker>Coming up on Club Connect, DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince tell us how they deal <v CC Speaker>with conflict when they don't agree with one another. <v CC Speaker>We'll examine the consequences of violent behavior and look for some alternatives to <v CC Speaker>fighting. Also, meet Damien Fuller. <v CC Speaker>He swings his fists in the boxing ring, not on the streets. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Lets see what you got Will. Lets see what you got.

<v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>My ball. Nah man, my ball. Nah man, hold up. [argument] Will, me and you, You ?dogged? <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>me out of my shot. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Oh, I think we're having a conflict here. <v Jazzy Jeff, Will Smith, Jerry Millen>Yeah, we're about to have one. And we need to go talk about this man. <v Tara Sendelbach>Uh oh, looks like Club Connects Jerry Millen is in hot water with rap music and TV stars <v Tara Sendelbach>Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. They look pretty angry. <v Odell Nails>You know, Tara, it's OK to be angry. What's important is how you deal with that anger. <v Odell Nails>I can't wait to see how they solve this showdown, but we'll check out that action later. <v Tara Sendelbach>Teens everywhere face conflict and even violence sometimes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Think about it. Can you recognize when you or people around you are angry? <v Tara Sendelbach>Did you ever wish that you could stop a fight before it starts? <v Tara Sendelbach>Do you know ways to prevent violence? <v Odell Nails>Stopping the fighting. That is what this special Club Connect is all about. <v Odell Nails>Let's start by learning how to recognize the early signs of trouble. <v Odell Nails>So take a look. <v Teenage Girl>So Larry, can you make it to my basketball game tonight? <v Larry>I can't, I have a history test to study for. <v Neil>Hey Larry, you took my history notes, give 'em back! <v Larry>What? <v Teenage Guy 2>You heard him, give 'em back. <v Neil>I left them on the lab table. Diana saw you take them, now give 'em a back!

<v Odell Nails>Stop. Here we have a situation that could become violent. <v Odell Nails>But if Larry can just not become angry, the violence can be avoided, right? <v Odell Nails>Wrong. Anger is a normal part of life, and there's nothing wrong with occasionally <v Odell Nails>getting mad, but if you can understand why you get angry and what happens to your <v Odell Nails>body when you get mad, then you can learn how to control it. <v Odell Nails>Let's continue our scene. <v Larry>I don't have your notes. <v Neil>You're lying, give 'em back! <v Odell Nails>Stop. The first step of anger begins with a stimulus or something that makes <v Odell Nails>you mad. In this case, Neil accusing Larry and pushing him. <v Odell Nails>You can begin to feel the anger physically in the forms of tension and stress. <v Odell Nails>When your body becomes tense a chemical called adrenaline is released into your <v Odell Nails>bloodstream, the adrenaline causes your breathing to become heavier, your heart to beat <v Odell Nails>faster, and your blood pressure to rise. <v Odell Nails>These physical changes add more tension and stress to your body, and you are now ready to <v Odell Nails>react to the source of the anger. <v Tara Sendelbach>OK, we've just seen one example of an angry situation. <v Tara Sendelbach>Now we're going to talk about what makes us mad, ok.

<v Teenage Girl 2>What really makes me mad are put downs and all put downs really do is lower <v Teenage Girl 2>a person's self-esteem. <v Teenage Guy 3>What really makes me mad is when someone is physically intimidating someone that's <v Teenage Guy 3>smarter than them, and it gets on your nerves and you know, it's not right. <v Odell Nails>OK, I got a feeling for what makes you mad. <v Odell Nails>But let's step it up a little. OK. Let's make it a little bit more serious. <v Odell Nails>Have you ever been in a situation where your adrenaline is pumping, you really thought <v Odell Nails>the situation was going to end up in violence? <v Odell Nails>Tell me what happened. <v Teenage Guy 4>Well, it did end up in violence, but I felt guilty for hitting him because you're just <v Teenage Guy 4>a little kid. But, you know, I tried to talk over to him about the situation, <v Teenage Guy 4>but he just didn't pay attention and you know, he was acting ignorant, and we were just <v Teenage Guy 4>arguing then I punched him. I felt real guilty. <v Odell Nails>Feel bad about it? <v Teenage Guy 4>Yeah. <v Odell Nails>Did you feel like you solved anything after you hit him? <v Teenage Guy 4>I felt low, like a snake. <v Odell Nails>OK. Who else got a story? <v Teenage Guy 3>I got in a little argument with this one guy who was saying stuff about me. <v Teenage Guy 3>And, you know, he started pushing me and stuff like that. <v Teenage Guy 3>Now I didn't-you-you know, I got in an argument but I didn't want to get into it because

<v Teenage Guy 3>it wasn't worth it, it was during school and I didn't want to get suspended or anything. <v Teenage Guy 3>You know, I just-I just let it go, I told him to chill out. <v Teenage Guy 3>And, you know, if he wants to talk to me about it after he can. <v Teenage Guy 3>And luckily, we solved it without fighting, and I'm-I'm glad we did. <v Odell Nails>So are you-I mean, are you even cool now to the point where he might respect you more? <v Teenage Guy 3>We were cool about it. We talked it over, you know, we got through it. <v Odell Nails>Cool. <v Tara Sendelbach>Anger is part of life, it's normal. <v Tara Sendelbach>But there is time to think before you act on your angry feelings. <v Tara Sendelbach>When we come back, we'll talk about some options. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stay tuned. [audience claps] <v CC Speaker>Anger is a normal part of life, learning to control it when you encounter <v CC Speaker>conflict with someone is a skill. <v CC Speaker>Call us at Club Connect at (313) 876-TEEN, or write <v CC Speaker>to us, for great ways to handle your anger in the anger control kit. <v Russell Farrell>We see a very high proportion of penetrating trauma, and what I mean <v Russell Farrell>by penetrating trauma is the type of trauma that's usually caused by knife or gunshot <v Russell Farrell>or uh injuries. <v Odell Nails>Dr. Russell Farrell is a senior physician at Detroit's receiving hospital, where the

<v Odell Nails>result of violence comes in ambulances. <v Russell Farrell>The um gravity of these injuries is to <v Russell Farrell>be very distressing because I see that there's not a lot <v Russell Farrell>of remorse usually in uh the person that's <v Russell Farrell>usually caused these types of injuries. <v Russell Farrell>I think if they could look over any of our shoulders on a Friday, Saturday night or <v Russell Farrell>really any night of the week and see what happens to the large majority of the victims of <v Russell Farrell>violence that might change some people. <v Russell Farrell>The horror and the harm that's been done, I can see reflected in the eyes of the <v Russell Farrell>family that I have to go tell that their loved one now has passed away <v Russell Farrell>as a result of the gunshot wound or the stab wound. <v Russell Farrell>I've never found the right words, I've never been comfortable with telling someone that <v Russell Farrell>the person they care about is-is dead. Uh I would <v Russell Farrell>imagine I guess for myself that if I ever felt comfortable with that, or <v Russell Farrell>ever became what I would consider insensitive to that event that I myself, would probably

<v Russell Farrell>end up having to leave this environment and move on to something else. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stay tuned. D.J. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince settle their beef with Club Connect's <v Tara Sendelbach>Jerry Millen. <v Tara Sendelbach>14 year old Damien Fuller and his trainer Eddie Carr are bound at <v Tara Sendelbach>the fist. <v Eddie Carr>The close relationship that's developed through the touching, the greasing of the <v Eddie Carr>face, the tying of the glove, massaging the fighters legs and his arms, <v Eddie Carr>washing his mouth guard. He's not afraid for me to wash his mouth guard and put my <v Eddie Carr>fingers in his face and his mouth, because, you know, we develop a closeness as we work <v Eddie Carr>day by day in the gym. <v Eddie Carr>I can be in the crowd and the people are yelling. <v Eddie Carr>If he's in the ring fighting and if I yell and say, use your jab, you can hear my voice <v Eddie Carr>above everybody simply because we've worked together and we've developed a bond, <v Eddie Carr>so that's just the way it is. [Indistinct instructions]

<v Edward Fuller>I'm Edward Fuller, I'm Damien's father. <v Edward Fuller>Damien listen to Eddie Carr on a lot of things better than he <v Edward Fuller>does me. <v Edward Fuller>I want it. Not only that, the kid is being, you know, being ?vetted? <v Edward Fuller>right. It doesn't matter with me, you know. <v Edward Fuller>I mean, I wouldn't have it no other way. <v Damien Fuller>My coach, Eddie Carr, he's like a second father to me. <v Damien Fuller>I goes over his house, spend the night. We leave-we leave in the morning, go to a <v Damien Fuller>tournament, go over his house for dinner and whatever. <v Damien Fuller>Helps a lot because uh my coach is always-my coach is always there for me <v Damien Fuller>I could talk to him about things and my father too. <v Damien Fuller>Both of them are great guys and I love 'em. <v CC Speaker>Damien has built a bond based on hard work and commitment. <v CC Speaker>And for him, it has paid off to have someone in his corner. <v CC Speaker>Fuller is the 1991 National Silver Gloves champion in the 95 <v CC Speaker>pound weight class. <v Damien Fuller>My first accomplishment I like to do is to get to the amateurs and maybe go to the <v Damien Fuller>Olympics, '96 Olympics. Want to go after that turn professional, and win

<v Damien Fuller>the world championship. <v Eddie Carr>If you don't have a mentor, or someone that can reel you in, or settle you down, <v Eddie Carr>then anyone can go astray. <v Eddie Carr>The jails are full of good fighters who <v Eddie Carr>if they only had someone that could reel them in. <v Damien Fuller> There's a lot of drug problems in the city and there's a lot of people forced <v Damien Fuller>to go the wrong way, but I'm lucky I have good parents and a good culture <v Damien Fuller>to teach me the right way. <v Eddie Carr>I look at Damien as being a little brother you know, I work with him and I think in all <v Eddie Carr>aspects of life, if I can, I'd like to see him grow up and be a perfect gentleman. <v Will Smith>I don't know why we're sitting down talking, this guy-. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>No, no, no, we had a conflict and we got to resolve it. <v Will Smith>Yo yeah, we had a beef. It was settled out there, when I said it was your ball- <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>You gotta sit down and talk these things out. <v Jerry Millen>Club Connect with D.J. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince. <v Jerry Millen>[audience claps] <v Jerry Millen>We're really just goofing here, but these type of conflicts happen all the time. <v Jerry Millen>And I'm gonna ask Will, what would you really do if that situation we just went through

<v Jerry Millen>really happened? <v Will Smith>Um, well, it depends. A lot of times what happens is you get in a situation <v Will Smith>where you stop thinking for a second, somebody will do something and your friends might <v Will Smith>be looking. Alright, and you can't afford to let your friends think you're a chump or <v Will Smith>something like that. And for me, it was never really a problem because my <v Will Smith>father, always my father killed all that peer pressure. <v Will Smith>And you know, it was nothing my friends could say or do to make me get in trouble with my <v Will Smith>father. <v Jerry Millen>What about you, Jazz? <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>Before you make drastic decisions or just follow the trend of your friends, you <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>nee-really need to sit down and think about everything that you do, you know because a <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>lot of problems can be solved if you just think about it. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>Think before you do. <v Will Smith>That's why we work so well together, right? <v Will Smith>I love you, man seriously. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>I love you too, man. [audience laughs a bit] <v Jerry Millen>Back in high school, lets say a fellow walked up to ya and said, yo man, I like what <v Jerry Millen>you're what you're wearing, I don't like those tennis shoes, I don't like them. <v Jerry Millen>And try to start some stuff with you. How would you handle that situation? <v Will Smith>You just have to get into the habit of thinking about it, because it's a lot of times

<v Will Smith>that people are petty and people are going to try to do petty things to you. <v Will Smith>You got to be above that. You have to want-you have to want something better for <v Will Smith>yourself. And, you know, again, I get back to the parents. <v Will Smith>That's why I feel like it's important for the parents to-to instill those type of values <v Will Smith>in your kids. You-you above that. You know, it's-no, you can't solve anything out in the <v Will Smith>street fighting and you get hurt. Somebody else get hurt. <v Will Smith>You get in trouble, you waste a lot of time. Your mind has to be elsewhere. <v Will Smith>You know, you have to be focused on what your goals are. <v Will Smith>What we're trying to say is that communicate makes it a lot easier than getting out there <v Will Smith>and rumbling. You know, after you rumble you still got a problem, and sometimes you might <v Will Smith>have a bigger problem. So we feel that communication is the way to do it. <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>And think first. <v Will Smith>Think first. Right, Jazzy? <v DJ Jazzy Jeff>You got it. <v Jerry Millen>So DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, you can work out the conflicts by talking? <v Will Smith>Yes, sir. <v Jerry Millen>Thanks for hanging out with us. [audience claps] <v Interviewer>Amber, what's Kim's favorite food?

<v Amber Covill>I'd say it'd probably be spaghetti, she's always eating it. <v Interviewer>Is she right? <v Kim Snell>Yeah, that's right. <v Interviewer>What about favorite thing to wear? <v Kim Snell>Black. <v Interviewer>Black? What about hers? <v Amber Covill>Black and blue. <v Interviewer>Black and blue? <v Kim Snell>Yeah, because she's always been ?inaudiable?. [laughs] <v Interviewer>They eat together, talk together and shop together. <v Interviewer>Kim Snell and 17 year old Amber Covill, are sisters. <v Interviewer>Not by blood, but through the Big Sisters Big Brothers program. <v Interviewer>They met when Amber was 10, and I recently met up with them to find out how their <v Interviewer>relationship has changed over the years. <v Amber Covill>I came from a broken family. My mom and dad were divorced and I needed someone else that <v Amber Covill>I could go out with besides my mom. So she called Big Brothers Big Sisters and <v Amber Covill>I met up with Kim. <v Kim Snell>Well, I think there was a point when I-I felt like I-I didn't realize <v Kim Snell>it at the time, but I think that Amber thought that I was being more like a mom. <v Kim Snell>And she let me know by just not talking to me for, what, six weeks. <v Kim Snell>And then I realized, OK, I'm-I'm being less of a friend and I backed

<v Kim Snell>off. <v Amber Covill>That 's cause she was just like, tell me what-you can't do this, you can't do this, and <v Amber Covill>she's acting more like my mom than my best friend. <v Kim Snell>Because I think I realized at one point, you don't want her to do those <v Kim Snell>things, but you can't-you can't tell her, you can't do those things. <v Kim Snell>You have to let them find out that for yourself and that's a hard thing to do. <v Kim Snell>But I'm not her mom, I can't do that, and that's not what I'm here for. <v Kim Snell>We do a lot more talking now, we talk about school, we talk about outside of school. <v Kim Snell>We talk about her trying to find a job, what she's gonna do after school, <v Kim Snell>keeping her grades up. <v Amber Covill>She's helped me become my own person. So look at my birthday party, I said, no drinking <v Amber Covill>and no one brought any alcohol because they knew what I meant. <v Interviewer>What do you guys argue about? <v Amber Covill>A couple times on certain friends. <v Amber Covill>She didn't like them and I just didn't listen to her. <v Amber Covill>And I went off, I was going to ?meet? James, and he was bad news. <v Amber Covill>He was into drinking, drugs, and I didn't get into the drugs, I got into drinking <v Amber Covill>and trouble. My mom and her helped me realize, hey, you know, he's not worth it. <v Interviewer>How do you think you'd be different if you hadn't had Kim around?

<v Amber Covill>Probably in juvenile hall right now, because I dunno, <v Amber Covill>I've just had a lot of bouts with the wrong people, and without Kim there I don't think <v Amber Covill>I'd be sitting right here. I'd probably be somewhere else. <v Amber Covill>[Song from Warrant plays] <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>Hey, I'm Jani Lane, I'm Joey Allen, and I'm Steven Sweet. We're Warrant, and you're <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>watching Club Connect. <v Warrant Members - Jani Lane, Joey Allen, Steven Sweet>Don't touch that dial. <v Tara Sendelbach>Welcome back. As we left you at the start of this show, Larry and Neil, the characters in <v Tara Sendelbach>our skit were about to come to blows. <v Tara Sendelbach>Check out this recap. <v Neil>You're lying, give 'em back! <v Tara Sendelbach>So we have this tense situation, and Larry, as we discussed before, is naturally angry. <v Tara Sendelbach>But even when we get angry, we still have some options as to how to deal with the anger. <v Larry>I don't have your notes! <v Tara Sendelbach>Stop. Self-defense is an option, but think about the consequences of fighting <v Tara Sendelbach>back. At the least, you can get suspended from school, in trouble with your parents, or <v Tara Sendelbach>with the police. In the worst case you or the other person can get seriously hurt.

<v Larry>Just leave me alone. <v Tara Sendelbach>Stop. Leaving the scene is another option and a good one if there's even <v Tara Sendelbach>a possibility of someone getting hurt. <v Tara Sendelbach>Go to an adult, they can help you solve a problem, particularly when the situation is <v Tara Sendelbach>beyond your control. Remember, nothing is more important than your life. <v Tara Sendelbach>There is a third option you can try. <v Tara Sendelbach>Throw a curve. <v Larry>Wait a minute, I'm sorry you lost your notes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Saying I'm sorry or excuse me does not mean you're wrong and the other person is right. <v Tara Sendelbach>It's just a good way of preventing a fight. <v Larry>I wish I had them so I can give 'em back, but I can't. <v Tara Sendelbach>Keep the situation light. The less serious the situation, the less likelihood a fight <v Tara Sendelbach>will break out. It's all right to make a joke, but not at the other person's expense. <v Tara Sendelbach>That can only make matters worse. <v Larry>Now let's stop a minute and retrace your steps and try to figure out what happened to <v Larry>your notes. <v Tara Sendelbach>Give the other person a way out. Chances are he doesn't want to fight either. <v Tara Sendelbach>Just remember three basics to throwing a curve. <v Tara Sendelbach>Number one, stay in control. Don't let your fear, anger or defensiveness make <v Tara Sendelbach>you lose your control. Breathe deeply, move slowly, stay calm.

<v Tara Sendelbach>Number two, keep it cool. Speak softly and calmly, shouting and swearing will just <v Tara Sendelbach>make the situation worse. And three, put yourself in the other person's shoes. <v Tara Sendelbach>It's easier to relate to the other person if you understand what they want, think or <v Tara Sendelbach>feel. <v Odell Nails>So we've just seen some options. <v Odell Nails>Why do you think people fight? <v Teenage Girl>I think people just get in fights to like make them look more popular around their <v Teenage Girl>friends. Like do it for their friends, like make them look tough so nobody else will mess <v Teenage Girl>with them. But the situation just gets worser because somebody else wants to fight 'em to <v Teenage Girl>see if they're tougher than that person. <v Odell Nails>And when you see somebody fight, you personally does that make you think that they're <v Odell Nails>tough or they're cool? <v Teenage Girl>No, I just think that they look stupid up there trying to show off in front of everybody. <v Odell Nails>Anybody else? <v Teenage Girl 2>I think that people fight to defend themselves and you know through the movies they're <v Teenage Girl 2>taught that the only way to really solve a problem is through fighting and not you know <v Teenage Girl 2>through talking. <v Tara Sendelbach>When we come back, we'll talk about where you go for help and support in dealing with <v Tara Sendelbach>everyday conflicts. <v CC Speaker>Anger is a normal part of life.

<v CC Speaker>Learning to control it when you encounter conflict with someone is a skill. <v CC Speaker>Call us at Club Connect at (313) 876-TEEN, or write to <v CC Speaker>us for great ways to handle your anger in the anger control kit. <v Chris Issak>Why don't you help me? <v Chris Issak>Why don't you guide me? <v Chris Issak>Say you love me and you need me. The way I love you please believe me. <v Chris Issak>Hi, I'm Chris Issak, and for those who can't read, it's right there, and next to me is <v Chris Issak>Tara Sendelbach. <v Tara Sendelbach>And this is um Kenny Johnson and we're hanging out here in the dressing room right before <v Tara Sendelbach>they go on here. It's so nice to meet you guys, I've been looking forward to this for

<v Tara Sendelbach>like three weeks. [Song briefly plays] <v Tara Sendelbach>You have a very unique style of dressing. <v Tara Sendelbach>What about in high school? What was your style then? <v Chris Issak>I wore a lot of real weird clothes. We got everything secondhand, pretty much in high <v Chris Issak>school. My mom would always take us out to get clothes secondhand, so I had clothes that <v Chris Issak>were like way out of style so far back that they were almost in style again you know what <v Chris Issak>I mean? [Song plays] <v Chris Issak>In high school, I was a pretty mellow guy, and when people give me a hard time <v Chris Issak>for like my clothes and stuff like that, I would just like quietly slink away, <v Chris Issak>and that's something I do even today. Quietly just slink away.

<v Chris Issak>Because if somebody is big on you and giving you troubles, it's like to heck with it, <v Chris Issak>it's not worth the aggravation. [Song briefly plays] <v Tara Sendelbach>So, Chris, why do you think the majority of your songs are so lonely and sad? <v Tara Sendelbach>Are you a lonely and sad guy? [Song briefly plays] <v Leslie Wardell>Camp experience was more like people trying to bond and get <v Leslie Wardell>to know each other and become men. <v Leslie Wardell>My name's Leslie Wardell and I'm in the 7th grade, the purpose of being up there with <v Leslie Wardell>?men? was meant to show us that other people besides our parents care about us. <v Warren Dennis>I'm Warren Dennis. I'm the person who initiated the African-American <v Warren Dennis>male mentor camp. <v Warren Dennis>I thought that we could bring together 45 boys into a <v Warren Dennis>learning environment of outdoor camping and match them with um <v Warren Dennis>men who had experienced life and share the survival

<v Warren Dennis>of being an African-American male with these boys. <v Warren Dennis>They have a story to tell. <v Michael Anderson>My name is Michael Anderson. I'm 14 years old. <v Michael Anderson>At first, I was kind of um skeptical. <v Michael Anderson>I don't know why really, I was just kind of lazy about it. <v Michael Anderson>But my mother, she was the one who encouraged me since she worked for ?reverend? <v Michael Anderson>?inaudible?. <v Michael Anderson>I see that as an African-American boy, we tend <v Michael Anderson>not to have as many African-American male mentors. <v Mentor>You gotta go to school, you gotta use your brain, you gotta go to school, a lot of <v Mentor>?girls? are dropping out, how many people in here would drop out? <v Mentor>We look at you 5-10 years down the road, how many drop outs we're gonna have in this <v Mentor>group? Raise your hand, all drop outs stand up and raise your hands. <v Allen Martin>My name is Allen Martin and I was a mentor that the African-American male mentoring camp. <v Allen Martin>I think in everyday life you have to be a mentor. <v Allen Martin>We've got a lot of children out there lost and they need a little bit of direction. <v Allen Martin>To actually go up to a camp ground with 45 African-American males was-it was excellent, <v Allen Martin>and it just gave them a chance to calm down a little bit and get away from the concrete

<v Allen Martin>and the hardness of the city. <v Leslie Wardell>The people that they didn't like each other first as the camp came along, <v Leslie Wardell>they started bonding more, they start coming together. <v Warren Dennis>It's very, very difficult to be a teenage <v Warren Dennis>boy today. I think we all learn both the boys and the men. <v Michael Anderson>My experience at the African-American male mentor camp was um <v Michael Anderson>very useful I see now. Well, I feel um more so responsible, <v Michael Anderson>I won't be as lazy as I am at certain times. <v Leslie Wardell>The experience taught me how to be more responsible of my duties, <v Leslie Wardell>of being a person and ?a human?, and help-how to help me along with my schoolwork. <v Allen Martin>Several of the children call me up now and they just talk about life. <v Allen Martin>They talk about ya know starting-starting school now. <v Allen Martin>One of the boys, um I took him up to get him a road in high school, it was a big step for <v Allen Martin>him, and just the fact that he wanted me to go with him, you know, made a difference, and <v Allen Martin>let me know that know that-that there is hope.

<v Odell Nails>We found some good answers to some tough questions about putting the brakes on conflicts <v Odell Nails>before they lead to violence. <v Tara Sendelbach>Odell, I think our viewers and our studio audience know that there are alternatives to <v Tara Sendelbach>violence. Resolving conflicts without violence starts when you stop to think about what's <v Tara Sendelbach>going on before you act. <v Odell Nails>And no matter what's going down, there's always time to think right guys? <v Odell Nails>[Audience says "Right!"] So who do you guys go to to talk to when you have a problem you <v Odell Nails>want to resolve? <v Teenage Guy>Well, usually sometimes I go to my mom or dad, but I have an older <v Teenage Guy>sister, and she's always asking me what's going on in school you know. <v Teenage Guy>And when I have a real bad problem, you know, with my friends or something I will talk to <v Teenage Guy>her. <v Tara Sendelbach>Ok, this brings us to another issue, which is role models. <v Tara Sendelbach>This is where you guys get to like mentioned on TV, who your role models are and get some <v Tara Sendelbach>brownie points with people you know. If you could name one person that-that you would <v Tara Sendelbach>like to be just exactly like, who would it be? <v Teenage Girl>I think I look up to my grandparents because I trust them most. <v Tara Sendelbach>Grandparents are a good source, you know, because they-they've been through everything

<v Tara Sendelbach>before. So, I mean, they can tell you kind of what's going on. <v Tara Sendelbach>Who else? Who else has somebody that they really admire? <v Tara Sendelbach>And they- <v Teenage Girl 2>I would like to be more like my mom because she goes to school. <v Teenage Girl 2>She raises me and my brother and sister. <v Teenage Girl 2>Plus, she has to work full time, so she does all three things and she still has time <v Teenage Girl 2>to spend-spend with us, take us places, or do things with us. <v Tara Sendelbach>Well, that's about all the time we have for this show. Our thanks to Chris Isaak, what a <v Tara Sendelbach>babe. Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince and everyone here in the studio, thanks <v Tara Sendelbach>you guys. <v Odell Nails>To everyone watching at home, thanks for tuning in, and we'll see you next time on <v Odell Nails>Club Connect. <v Odell Nails>?inaudiable? <v CC Speaker>On a future Club Connect. <v Speaker>You can go out and get a really good workout if you can uh aerobically increase <v Speaker>your heart. The most important thing about that is that this is the kind of exercise <v Speaker>that you're having so much fun doing, you kind of forget that you're getting in good <v Speaker>shape too. <v CC Speaker>Watch for it. <v K.M.C. Kru>The Devil, Devil, Devil came up to Michigan, he was looking for a soul to steal.

<v K.M.C. Kru>He had trouble in mind, as he drove on the line, he was looking to make a deal. <v K.M.C. Kru>He had a brand new Nissan truck, convertible with a portable phone. <v K.M.C. Kru>He had a Kenwood deck that was bumpin' loud as he stops in a no parking zone. <v K.M.C. Kru>The Devil stepped out with a beeper on his hip, a black Flia suit that was down, but then <v K.M.C. Kru>he turned his head then his eyes got red and when you heard this scratchin' sound, he <v K.M.C. Kru>walked up on a boy on two turntables. This boy was rippin' the cut, so the Devil jumped <v K.M.C. Kru>up on the back of his truck and said, "Boy, let me tell you what. <v K.M.C. Kru>You rock the beat pretty good boy, but naw, it ain't nothin' new because I'm in your <v K.M.C. Kru>town, 'bout to take that crow, and ain't nothin' that you can do! <v K.M.C. Kru>But if you want to get bad, don't make me mad, we can make this little bet true. <v K.M.C. Kru>A turntable of gold against your soul, I think I'm better than you.". <v K.M.C. Kru>The boy said, "My name's the Butcher, and I'm the baddest around in this city. <v K.M.C. Kru>You start to mess with me and I'm sure you'll see you're gonna feel real itty-itty-bitty. <v K.M.C. Kru>But I'll take that bet, and you're gonna regret it," and then Butcher started flexing his <v K.M.C. Kru>wrist. But then the Devil's posse all jumped in. <v K.M.C. Kru>Then they broke it all down like this:

<v K.M.C. Kru> Hit it! Devil's <v K.M.C. Kru>in the house. <v K.M.C. Kru>And when the devil got done scratching, everyone knew he was no joke. <v K.M.C. Kru>Because his records caught on fire, the turntables went up in smoke, the Devil's <v K.M.C. Kru>posse got in the circle and gave each other high-fives. <v K.M.C. Kru>They thought the Butcher had lost, party-party time to get live! <v K.M.C. Kru>The Butcher started stretchin', he yawned and looked at the Devil. <v K.M.C. Kru>Then he dropped his arms down by his side and kind of giggled and laughed at the fellow, <v K.M.C. Kru>he had some Double Mint gum so he put it in his mouth, I guess he enjoyed the taste.

<v K.M.C. Kru>But then he threw the gum wrapper in the Devil's face, and stepped back and hollered <v K.M.C. Kru>out "Bass!" [Record being scratched] <v K.M.C. Kru> <v K.M.C. Kru>The Devil bowed his head because he knew he had been beat.

<v K.M.C. Kru>So he laid that fresh turntable of gold down by the Butcher's feet. <v K.M.C. Kru>The Butcher told the Devil to get out of town then he laughed dead in his face, then the <v K.M.C. Kru>Butcher started cuttin' all over again, stepped back and hollered out "Bass!". <v K.M.C. Kru>[Record being scratched till the end of the song]