Lifestyles: An Experiment in Feedback

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E'g gydав a'r yshegio modu feegio. Mae'r yw'a gyd hemnau. Negu'r Isaiahhylis. Mae'r apwyd gynnynau wrthysfanc. I am talking about an irrational feeling. The irrational feeling is that I broke a rule. What's the rule? The rule is that a woman works hard and has nothing for herself. And that it's men, men of the race horses, children, or you groom them, you feed them, and you're behind the scenes. You clean up the horse shit. And they run the race, and they get the laurels. And you can complain about that, but you secretly feel powerful and overworked. Like a secretary behind the president who feels she really runs the company, and he gets all the glory. And I just stepped out here and got the glory. So why should you feel that you're afraid? I think that you would feel free that you've done this.

I think this would have set me free rather than make me feel that no one would like me anymore. I would feel like more of a person than I've accomplished something so great. I did for a second, and I probably will again, but right now the feeling is I've been a very bad girl. I've done a very naughty thing. And my mom is going to be mad at me. I mean, I feel like a kid. You disagree with that. Do you have trouble understanding? Have you broken out of the role of a woman? No. No, I haven't broken out of the role, and I'm finding it difficult to break out of it, because growing up, when I did, you were groomed just to be a mother and a wife. And coming from the background that I come from, an Italian background, this is exactly what I expected to be. I never expected to be anything other than somebody else's wife. If it was a dentist, it was Joe DeVoto's dentist. The wife of a dentist, the wife of a garbage man, the wife of anything.

Not me, Nancy. And so now I feel that I would like to be more than just somebody's wife. I would like to be me. And I'm more afraid, I think, than anything now, because I think there's going to come a time I'm going to have to make a decision, because I don't think that I'm going to be allowed to just do anything that I want to do when I want to do it. What if Nancy had more of a role in a creative area? Do you think that would help her understand your situation maybe? And what would your reaction to that thing? I don't know. It depends on how she function. Because I would have to treat her. I would treat her just like every other person that was working on the project. No different. No compromises or nothing. Because you can't. You can't. This is too expensive a medium. This is too, this is too technical. There's too many demands placed on everyone working on the project.

Now if we're putting a film here together, fine, terrific. Now imagine if you had like a $100,000 project on your hand. What if what she was doing that was creative? Wasn't something that you were doing, but something completely different. She was satisfying herself in a different way from the way you were. I would be aware of that. Or you mean working in the same environment? I wish you would go off and do something else in a completely different environment. You mean satisfying? Yes, satisfying. Correct. That's why she's going to New York. That's fine, terrific. Yeah, I want to see her develop other intellectual psychies of a mind. You know, maybe to explore, she's, she's growing. I mean, she's put a great, she's been 20 years. We've been together 20 years. It's great woman, great woman. Then you don't, you don't understand like what I feel about things. Yeah, but you have to understand what I feel.

But I can dismiss it. Because I come home all day long. You're not home. That's true. That's why I believe a woman's liberation. I think that's so women. Take me out of the home. Yeah, right. May have, may feel that like, hey, you know what? This isn't for me. All right. Tomorrow I'm going to get a job. Fine. Terrific. Yeah. Tell the viewer. Tell the viewer. Tell the viewer. No, wait a minute. It's like this. If tomorrow I decide, well, you know what? I want to do something else. And I really want to cut my, my, my income in half or whatever. Oh, son of a bitch. Wait a minute. Hold it. You son of a gut. Haven't you cut your income? Yes, I haven't. I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't like that. You did that already and you came home and you said, you know what? I don't have a job. Look, can I say something? What did I say to you? Can I say to you? All I'm interested is that fucking drawbridge better be. I mean, when I come home, it's got to be, I mean, you got to blow the drawbridge and then you raise it up. That's all I'm concerned about. You mean that?

I don't want to work. Everything has to still be the same as when I was here. I think, well, that's the contribution that a woman makes to a home. Who do you think makes a home function? A man or a woman? Some people make a home function. Some people make a home function. Yes, that's true. You don't make time for ourselves, which we should make time for ourselves because I think that's how you lose each other. Trying to find something that I want, what I like, not what I'm told to like. What are you going to do if the needs of your children conflict with what you want? What if they need you? What if they need you on the night you've got a very important class? Who gets what they want? Well, this is another thing. I think you have to stop feeling guilty. And this is what I haven't stopped feeling sometimes is guilty. I'm sure that you can. Yeah. I've got my work hours down. I work a lot. And I don't want to be going on days. I like to go to movies.

I love the theater. And I like to check in hotels and write books. And I like to go for walks by myself on the park. And I also like to be with my kids. But I spend a lot more time at home than I do. What it's like to be the kid of a mother who works, who works nights, who comes home and sleeps sometimes in the middle of the day and you have to be quiet, who goes away on weekends to hotels and writes books or runs marathons. Which is the bad stuff and whatever the good stuff is. What's it like? I mean, how do you like it? Well, sometimes I can never see you. And I feel like I can never see you. And like, you know, like I don't have a mother kind. And like you're just alone in the house with a stupid maid, huh? The first choice of people I'd take away was my maid. And the second choice that I put back in, that I put back in, would be my mother.

Because every night she has a groom. And sometimes she has marathons for about two days long. And she never comes home. So I'd like it that she'd come home every night. I don't think I would ever want to hear my children say that I wasn't home enough with them because I felt that I wanted to be out some other place away from them. I think that maybe the children feel that, you know? Excuse me, Barbara. On the tape, if the comment was, I could spend a lot more time at home with my kids than I do. How do you feel about that now? Fine. But at the time, I waited in and said it, you know, just to put Nancy into a lot of the corner that she really was heading for. But what I mean by that is I love to be home with my kids. Every time I don't have to work or don't have to go anywhere

and come home and announce that we all cheer. I think the tape shows, you know, my reaction to myself first and then to Barbara's children. And I think that the children really make a difference in having seen her children and how they feel about that she should be home has really made me, I think it made me think a lot, that maybe I'm just going to have to be content just to stay home. I think in 10 or 15, 20 years, everybody will see it so much clearer than they do now. And that is that the whole idea of having a mother home constantly is the same idea as a man having a wife who always waits, who is always there, whether he needs her or not. And I don't think people need each other that way. I don't think people have to use each other that way. One of us grew up deprived of fathers, every single one of us, and imposed on by the kinds of mother that I probably am,

which is that an angry overwork mother with, who would like to be a kid sometimes too and never has a chance. And that was true when I was married. I had three children, two little ones and one grown up one. And I think that it's got to stop. Women need to get out and men need to be home. Men need their children. It's got to be turned totally upside down and the kids always pay. The adults pay too. That's what people would term the American dream to have a house in the suburbs within communities. You see what she just said is the opposite of what I believe. She's like, the beach club to me is forget it. That whole milieu out there, that whole concept, that thing, that playing the tennis. See, if I'm going to play tennis, because I enjoy playing tennis with a specific person, that's contact. Not to go out and play tennis because I must. I enjoy it. Because I have friends. The beach club to me is a banal. It's all bullshit. Everybody stands by the pool and their kids are there. And there's a trivia conversation.

And they talk about the lawn and that house. That's true because, first of all, if you have children. No, no, no. All right. But you have children, right? And they have to be in the summer, right? There's a beach club here. Now they can't go alone. Who's going to go with them? The mother. So what do you do? Where does the mother go? What about the living maid? There's no living maid around here. This is not that, too. This is the photo. No way they were holding a cigarette. You're always reacting to that. I don't mean a maid. The maid. That's what a woman's role is. That's where you're women. That's where you're women. That's where you're women fall apart. Because the holiday. Because, look, once you take on the responsibility of being a housewife and a mother, in that role, they're wrapped up many roles. I didn't make the responsibility of being a housewife and mother. I just got married. That's all. When a woman decides to marry someone, you settle down and she says, okay, I'll leave my job and I'll make a house. She becomes an artist at the range.

I don't know if many become artists at the range. Because that is a craft. An enormous craft. You must become a lover. You must become maid. You must become housewife. You must become articulate as far as education can say with your children. I mean, wrapped up in the role of being a woman is an enormous. That's where I have a lot of respect for a woman. Because it's a 24-hour cycle operation. It never ends. I've been pretty busy with that list. That's right. Now you want to accept them? Now let me tell you, women slip. Hold on. They're so busy. They're so busy. I see a lot of good points about it. Yes, they must be liberated. But that's not why they should be liberated. What they're looking for, they say, hey, look at me as a human being. I have my needs and et cetera. I understand that. But a lot of women can't make that scene there because it's an enormous job for them. And so what we were talking about before, the reason why they run away from their homes and that bitch in the morning and grown today

is because they did it too soon in their lives. What they should have been doing was going out into the world and opening up their minds of flourishing out there and understanding what life is all about. See, that's not what they were doing. What they were doing is they were worried about getting a husband and settling down in suburbia and making babies and et cetera. But they were ready for it. Just like the guy wasn't ready for it. That is the problem. What are you ready for? I was ready for it. But yes, I was ready for it because I loved it. There's a mother brought her up that way. She says, oh, yes. Right, that's the role. At 18, you must be married. You learn how to cook and et cetera. That's the way they brought us up. But that's the way. Don't you want to stand? That's what it's done. All right, I believe you're right. It's wrong. Now, I tell you what, now, I don't want to be just a housekeeper. I want to say, is that she has suddenly become aware of her own individuality, where she should have been aware of 20 years ago.

And that's what the whole cycle is. See, we've done everything in reverse. That's just that my wife and I, that's just six times you change your profession. Why can't I change professions? There comes a time when, you know, you have to do something other, you know, like there are phases that you go through in your whole life. So now, I went through all the phases of, you know, of motherhood and children. Now, I have a daughter who's going to be 19 and I have other children. I have a son who's eight. Now, everybody is growing up and pursuing other careers. And you aren't needed as much as you were needed before, as a mother. And so, now there has to be something else that's got to fill the void that I don't, you know, that I, I'm not wanted as a mother. I mean, what are you guys about Nancy? Do you think her life is very difficult? No. She seems barren or disappointed?

I think she wants something. She wants something. She wants something. I think that she's got a very wonderful life. I think she should too. I think you should get someone in this house to replace her. Cost $100 a week to help you find somebody. Good. And I think you should come and go. You know what she should have? That's more than life than you are Joey. She's going to panic that nobody needs her with somebody else. She's going to be much more panic than you are. So, if you want to call a call to this conversation, tell her to put her money where mouth is, and hire somebody for $100 a week and send her out. Okay. Now, then you've got to quit complaining. He's right. Yeah. Yeah. You cook a meal. It's on you. Stay in your place and quit complaining. I don't understand what you're talking about. That's right. See what he complied about. I think that I can have both. I want the both of two worlds. What does that mean? Economy. 900 billion is in your pocket. You didn't give your wife enough to maintain your plants, and she buys them for your plants. She gets everything. That's not the point.

The point is what? The point is that she's your foreman. That's not her money. She's your money manager. What can I do? What do you want? I'm a little chite. I'm a little limited in what I can do. I'm a manager now. I'm a manager. I'm a manager. You know, what do you want me to do? I even know that right. If she watches the boys, she wants a chicken call. What if she doesn't want a divorce? What if she wants the things to change? Well, stay here and shut up. That's all. We're gonna do that. I'm not fed in me to say, well, if you can do whatever you want to do, but if you decide you want a career, you want to go to work, or you want to do whatever you want to do, well, we'll just have to get a divorce. Who should have said that? You should have said that. But who got a divorce? You said that. In other words, I have to lose you. If I want to make any kind of decisions myself out of my own life. Why do I have to lose you? I make you make all your decisions.

And I never said, you know what? If you make that decision outside of work, you're gonna lose me. I never said that. Okay. You rock, Joey. Switch roles for you, actually. I couldn't do that in a million years. Let your wife walk in and say, shut up, everybody. Shut up. Just get in my dinner and shut up. Yeah, right. And you say, okay, honey. You know, I know what she's all about. You're right. You're right. You want to know something? I'm with you. Are you really? Yeah. The quit your job for you. I can't. What's your money we love? It's too late. Let's do it. It's too late. It's too late for the aristocrat to step down. I never want to have it got the guts. Okay. Number two. It would be just too much time away from what I want to do. If a woman resigns up a job or whatever the size that becomes a housewife, with all of the crafts involved, well, then that's what she has to do.

Good, better and different. Why don't you have something funny to do it? If you're a man, you want to get married. You keep your career. And you get to have a wife too. Nice. If you're a woman and you want some love, you've got to give up everything else for love. That's why women don't think you've got that. What's your way? What is my wife give up? Well, she gave up her career as a director. Why? Give up what? Her career as a director. I'm a director. Joey, listen. Let me tell you something. You want a male? You want to see male showman, isn't it? Yes, Joey. Right. Here it's right here. At the head of this table. I am... Why? I'm Joe Devota, married four children. I... I... I support this woman. I don't want to do anything. I have to leave him. And I don't want to leave him. And you can leave me alone. I... I can leave too. Well, that's too late. Hey, you think I like to come out with this bullshit. See? I don't like that. You know something, Nancy? How come you put up with it? That's what I don't understand. You've got all our sympathies. We're ready to kill the bastard. He's a low life. You're an angel. You're a martyr.

He's a bastard. He's perfectly clear. This bullshit. We'll kill him. How come we want to kill him? I'm married to him. He didn't do me any harm. How come you don't kill him? One... One big, big problem. One... A tremendous problem. I love him. I love him. No, I think Joey's come a long way, really. I think he's coming up. I think he's coming. Yeah. No, I mean, I think you've come a long way. You've come a long way. I knew you were always an intellectual with a giant joke. I knew that all the time. Because you tell me that. But I think as far as, like, really letting... letting the strings loose a little bit. I mean, I remember when I first started any kind of school. I know you didn't like it at all. Even though you always told me, you know what you needed in education. But you never made me go out of your get it. There's something about women in this country

which they've always failed to realize that was important in their own lives and now they're becoming aware of it. And that is the English language. They are not verbally orientated. They are emotionally orientated. I should realize that I have for 20 years. While he was out talking with all the directors and actors and going to school for six years and 10 years, I was home saying, go, go, go, right? And who the heck was I having an intelligent conversation? When he came home, he was too wrapped up in a book to talk to me. There's nothing wrong with your English. She's not speaking clearly for a different reason. You want to get into a lecture on the natural inferiority of women as verbal animals. When what you do is put her down, she's lost herself confidence. She should do nothing but swear at you. When you walk in the house, you should say fuck.

For 20 minutes, thank you. And she would regain her tongue. But in the meantime, she's savored. I'm going to get into a lecture about the English language, where she's just confused and pissed off. I know. You see, that's why I really do. I understand. We were talking about women's lit. I know why they want to be liberated. They? Yeah, women. Or us. We all want to be. Or she wants to be liberated. Yes, all right? Listen, living with me hasn't been very easy. It's been very difficult. Ah, raw, raw. I've never said it. No, I know. I've never said it. You know, to be other than that. I know. It's been very difficult living with an artist. So give me a break. Well, why don't you become? It's one you stop being an artist. One herb in the artist and let you have a difficult person living with you for a change. There's fair, Joey. She might be a fantastic artist. Who the hell knows? That's a wasted resource of the day. Where are you, wife?

And you might be a natural homemaker, Joey. You might have blocked it. You might go to a hotel. You might be a natural mother. No, I said, I am. What do you think washed the floor this morning? You walked on when you came? The greatest meatball. I did. I make the greatest meatball in this coast. I make the greatest salad in this country. Joey, come on, I think. I mean, my God. Did she menstruate better than you do? Is there anything? Yes. It's long overdue. Really. I think it's taking hold of them. I think it needs, like... But how can you be excited about women's liberation? When I'm saying, hey, you're going to have to change places with a woman if she's your equal. I can't do that. You say, I can't do that. How can you say both of us? It's a good mouth. Yeah, but I can't. I can appreciate it. I can't do that. I hope the Negro did their rights just don't want to move in my neighborhood. Oh, no. What are you saying, Joey? No. I hope everybody gets liberated, but my nigger? No. No, I know it's such a smart thing. It's just that... Did you get liberated during a lot of trouble, Joey? Yeah. She wants to get liberated.

She wants liberation. She can have with someone that I take care of those gorgeous kids. Well, could I get somebody to take care of her? I have another nigger, right? I don't want to make compromise in life. Not now. Not in the... Not after, like, what I went through to get where I am. Now, maybe it may not be, like... What society thinks is... Well, it's a big plot. I know that I said to myself, I wanted to go this route, and I went. And I made all the decisions myself. And Nancy helped me a great deal to get there. I am steadfast in some of my ideas about life, about what I believe in them, and like I said to you before, I follow my instincts and my heart. I like being a wife, and I like being a mother, and I like taking care of that conflict. But no. Sometimes, as you said, I have a lot of energy, and I want to do things with the energy. And sometimes you only can do it at night,

and that means... You have to take time from... You know, how you would do that? And that you either belong to yourself or you belong to somebody else, that you could like to be nice to do half of each, but they bump into each other. And when they do, you've got to make a choice. Well, your husband is a director, and he's also a father and husband. Right? Yeah. But on the day... Right. And on the day you have a stomach ache, and he can't have his measles. He's a director. All right, so I'm first a mother, though. All right. You first are for somebody else in second for yourself. Yeah. Right. He's first for himself and second for somebody else. Right. Yeah, well, I want to be like him. And I am like him often. And I'm scared. I'm going to pay. I don't know how else to say it. It seems so. I handle it. All I know is that I did it the other way and I can't live with that. I don't know if I can handle it or not. I got to do it that way. That's the way I've got to do it. That's the way I've got to do it. I'm going to make everybody around me suffer

with bitterness, the way my mother did, and the way every other bright woman I knew did. Maybe I make them suffer anyway. I don't know. I'm going to do the best I know how. You know what, Joe? You need a lot more love than you're getting. Now, your families tell you they want a lot more love from you. But wait a minute. Wait a minute. If you took the kind of love you need from your family, you'd be giving them everything they want from you. You're somebody who, like me, enjoys walking around saying, I carry the world on my shoulders and everybody wants a piece of me. But Joey, what you don't admit is that you need a piece of them. You need them to love you and understand you and you don't ask them for anything. And if you ask them for that, you'd be giving them what they need. You won't take anything from anybody. Joy, that's your problem. It's not that you don't give enough. You won't take anything. But you really love them. And you don't show them with the feelings. Because that's very dangerous.

Joey, that's very sensitive and dangerous. And I think you're very sensitive, man. And I think it scares you. If you want to do something in life, there is nothing you should get in the way of you doing it. Carry it. That's what it's all about. Well, that's all. And don't cop out with me. You want the boat. You know what you want. You want the boat world of like the cop out scene. You don't want it. You're not sure if you really want it. Well, I don't want the whole cop out scene. I don't want to use the house big board. I have to say that. I'm out in the West Coast and direct the film for two years. You know what? I'll be out there tomorrow morning. Yeah, but you wouldn't say anything. You know what? You have to come out there with me. And if you don't want to come. You don't come. All right. Listen, you know what you're saying? You're saying I can't be liberating because my daddy will let me. Yeah, that's right. That's for long. And I'm saying he can't liberate you. You're going to liberate yourself. That's something Nancy.

I'll tell you what you do like. You know? Well, you like the power of your own convictions. He's right. He's right. Don't blame me. Come on. I'm just a godfather. Well, who's going to shoot? You're a pretty little foot. Who's going to glove your hand? Who's going to glove your hand? Who's going to glove your hand? Who's going to kiss your red ruby lips? And who's going to be your man? Who's going to be your man? Who's going to be your man? Who's going to kiss your red ruby lips?

And who's going to be your man? Papa's going to shoot my pretty little foot. Mama's going to glove my hand. Sister's going to kiss my red ruby lips. And I don't need no man. I don't need no man. I don't need no man. Sister's going to kiss my red ruby lips. And I don't need no man. The longest train I ever did see was a hundred coaches long.

The only man I ever did love was on that train and gone. He was on that train and gone. The only man I ever did love was on that train and gone. The only man I ever did love was on that train and gone.

The only man I ever did love was on that train and gone.